Happy Late Valentines Day.

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It may not be my favorite holiday...but even over-commercialized, overrated holidays can be beautiful.

Valentines day is one of those days that gives those people who usually rationalize themselves out have having expectations, the reason to have expectations, however small... If that makes any sense?

Well, I am one of those people. I don't want expectations. I really don't. Expectations lead to disappointment, and disappointment leads to a whole slew of unpleasant emotions that I prefer to avoid. So usually, I lose the expectation...or just expect the worst in most situations. The best thing about expecting the worst is that when that doesn't happen, you're super excited. It's kind of the feeling you get when you have a really bad headache and then all of a sudden, it's gone. You feel 50 times better than you would normally, just because of the drastic improvement.

Anyway, back to V-day. Have you ever noticed how so many relationships end around any holiday? A whole lot. And why is that? My bet is that its because of unfulfilled expectations by either or both parties.

And even people like me, people who don't really give a damn about a dozen roses, or a five star dinner, or a unique romantic gesture; still long for something. Anything. Frankly, I could get a letter and a mix cd every holiday for the rest of my life and be pretty damn happy. Sure, jewelry is nice, flowers are nice...obviously I'm a girl, I like those kinds of things. But I know that a lot of guys only get them because of the expectation the girl has, not because it has any special meaning to them whatsoever. I don't want to expect that from anyone, and to be honest, no one should.

Some people think that love only exists if others can see it and if it's paraded around in the form of a tacky "journey" necklace from kay jewelers. Wrong. Oh so wrong. What has become of us?

I realized this recently also, how sexist Valentines Day is. The girls expect everything from their guy and what does the guy get? I mean sure, they probably get exactly what they want [after all, blowjobs are like flowers for men, or so I've heard] ...without the girl having to spend a dime....but still. Some girls expect flowers and dinner and jewelry and romance and chivalry in return for what? Sexual favors? These girls give us all a bad name, I swear.

I propose valentine's day get wiped off the calendar completely. We already have birthdays and anniversaries and christmas to worry about, stress over, and expect things from. Why must there be a random day in February that puts relationships in jeopardy?

Sorry for the rant...but I feel better.

-Julie